June 12, 2024 | By Ranner Faugas
Celebrating Growth and Learning in End-of-Year Capstone
“I don’t know, man. I don’t feel like going. It’s not even ‘cause I’m scared, it’s because I don’t feel like going.”
That was the text one of our scholars sent to us at 1:00 p.m. on Thursday, May 30th, just three hours before their end-of-year capstone event. In that moment, I could only think of one thing: “You’re going! I’m not sure how, but we’re going to find a way.” So my colleague and I set a plan in motion to cajole, coerce—maybe threaten?—the student to come. We quickly reached out to a teacher at the school who was planning to come to the event and told him to come along with some of his students and ensure that the student who reached out to us was in tow. Fearing that might not be enough, we FaceTimed him to see if we could assuage some of his concerns.
“Come on, man. You gave us your word. You said you were going to be there. We’re disappointed that this is what you want to do.” We had no idea if our words would move him, but we didn’t have another strategy. Then came a question that left us stumbling a bit before finding our footing: “Why do you want us to go so bad?”, he asked.
“Ummm… this is what we’ve been working so hard towards all year.” My colleague Josh chimed in, “This is for you. This is something hard, and when you encounter other hard things in life, you’ll be able to look back at this and realize that you’ve done something hard before.” I’m not sure if he found our reasons convincing or if he was just tired of the tug and pull. He knew we wouldn’t relent, so, perhaps in an effort to end the conversation, he just said, “Alright.”
Alright? What’s alright? Are you going to be there? I guess we would just have to wait and find out. After hanging up the phone, I kept thinking about that question: “Why do you want us to go so bad?” Why did we want him to go so bad? It became clear that the reasons we had given him were not compelling enough.
Were they going to get the chance to show their content mastery of wealth inequality? Yes! Were they going to get the chance to confront their fears and speak in front of more than 60 people? Yes! Were they going to get the chance to share with the audience their experience throughout the year in the program? Yes! But, in that moment, I realized that one of the things we told him the event was about, which I reckon we didn’t highlight enough, was misplaced. We always said it, but we never said it like it was the main thing, like it was enough on its own. And it is that we are holding the event to celebrate you. Full stop. To celebrate the hard work they accomplished throughout the year; to celebrate their journey—the growth they’ve shown over the last eight months; to celebrate the many small victories they secured throughout the course of the program. In the end, the thing we seek to measure is progress.
As Josh frequently reminded them: “Nobody is asking you to be perfect. We’re asking you to be better.” And after those eight months, they are. They really are. And that in itself is enough, and that is why we wanted him to come so bad.
When the young men walked in the room, we asked everyone to clap as they entered. Some might have thought it a little strange, as they had not presented anything yet. But the journey to that moment is what was worth celebrating, not the display of talent and mastery they were prepared to show. Nonetheless, everyone came to see what it was they were working on. And cohort after cohort—four in each group—got up, took the podium, and showcased their work. Some were nervous, some spoke softly, and some sought to hide behind others, but despite their fear and uncertainty, they carried on. That’s what they have been doing all year. They are Resolved.
In 2021, Kim Willingham was named Executive Director – the first woman and first Black leader – of the Boston Debate League. Before being named ED, Kim served as the BDL’s Director of Culture and Engagement and prior to that as an Instructional Coach on the Debate-Inspired Classrooms team. Throughout her 20+ years in education, Kim has held multiple leadership positions. She began her career as a Teach for America Corps Member in the Crescent City – New Orleans, LA – where she taught 6th grade ELA and Social Studies. Kim earned an EdM from Harvard Graduate School of Education and a BS from Eastern Michigan University. Her experience also includes several years in school leadership and education consulting. Originally from the Motor City, she now resides in Dorchester with her two children. In her free time, she enjoys reading, traveling, and spending time in nature. Kim is grateful for the joy she gets to experience daily working with the students, teachers, volunteers, and staff of the BDL community.